Complaints of lack of respect among children are on a gradual rise every passing day. As a father, what can you do to make sure that your children learn and value respect? What is your role in ensuring that your children have behaviors that portray respect?
1. Start teaching your kids early
The best moment to start instilling the art of respect in your children is when they are young. As soon as they start modeling their behavior, teach them to respect. As they grow and start developing communication skills, respectfull behavior will be incorporated in this growth.
For example, teach them that they should never interrupt another person when talking but should wait until there is an open moment for them. Show them how to behave when around the house, both in your home or other people’s.
They should know how to behave when they are in all settings, be it public or private. When you do this, they will grow with respect as a part of them.
2. Be a good role model
The best way for your children will learn is by observing you. They will learn so much from you as an example. Therefore, you should always watch how you talk, carry yourself around the family and other people, and treat your spouse. Be a respectful and listening person.
Respect their space, their privacy, possessions, and bodies. Avoid belittling them or calling them names.
3. Be an attentive listener
Ever talked to someone who was all ears? How did that make you feel? Yes, you got it right! You felt respected. It would be best if you also did the same. You should give your children all the attention, especially when you are having a conversation.
Do not just glue your eyes to the TV when they are trying to talk to you. By stopping what you are doing and listening to them, you will be reflecting a good image, and they will feel important.
4. Cultivate honesty
Being honest with someone is another way of showing respect. When conversing with your children, communicate clearly and straight to the point, making them know when they have met your expectations or when they have failed to do what you wanted them to.
This way, they will learn to value honesty and reciprocate this in their day to day activities.
5. Appreciate diversity
Teach your kids that there is so much more to life than they already know or are experiencing. Tell them about the diverse cultures, religions, practices, and opinions. This way, they will become familiar with different things, and from here, they can respect other people’s views and differences. They will then be able to respect even people different than them.
6. Practice empathy
Empathy is a crucial tool for developing respect. For example, you might be the kind of possessive person and don’t take it easily when people use your things before borrowing them. Even if it makes you fume with rage, try thinking about what was on their mind while doing so.
Maybe they thought that since you are their dad, you won’t mind it if they used your stuff. This way, you will avoid putting them in embarrassing and stressful moments.
Teaching kids respect is not about being so hard on them. Be calm and gradually teach the virtue in them. You will marvel at how your children will quickly learn.